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HELLO, STRANGER

MUSICEYES & EDGE
HELLO, STRANGER

Q+A With Craigslist Posters

Wonder what becomes of those missed connection posts and who’s behind them?  We get the dish from three ladies who’ve either posted or responded on Craigslist.

E+E: So, tell us the story. How did you meet your connection?Heather C: Several years ago I was at Lowes and I noticed that the employee who had helped me was following me around the store. He was too shy to say anything and sure enough I found a missed connections waiting for me later that day.Lucy R: It was an unusually sunny Saturday back in March and I needed to pick up the Childish Gambino CD I had on hold at the Belmont library. As I was biking up, someone says to me, "aren't you cold?" I noticed his accent first, which prompted me to ask where he was from (Arkansas originally). He moved to Portland in October and we talked for a few minutes before he excused himself and took off.I posted to CL that evening (the post title was "We talked bikes on a sunny afternoon"). I said that we had talked, that I thought he may be a bit older (he's 13 years my senior) but that we should get a drink sometime. I got an email on Monday, which was such a shock.Elizabeth M: I was running the library errand on my lunch break. I needed to pick up a new book but just wandered aimlessly around the library until I found two that caught my fancy. A cute, dark haired, tall stranger helped me check out. He then held the door open for me to leave and I told him to have a nice day, but instantly wished I had queried him about his reading choices. Anything to start a conversation. Then we both walked in the same direction. I kept considering walking up to him, but we were near Pioneer Square and I didn't know if it would seem creepy five blocks away from the library. I might be overanalyzing it, but I didn't want to seem like I was following this helpful stranger--who may or may not be single.E+E: What became of your missed connection?HC: Turns out we had a mutual friend so I hung out with him at his home and watched a movie. Nothing really clicked, it was awkward. Several weeks went by, maybe months. I was twenty at the time, and when a girlfriend of mine was in town, we called on this fellow and his friend to supply vodka. Long story short, we ended up having these guys over for drinks and woke up in bed with these dudes. Let's just say they were never the types that we'd go for if we were sober. And for the record- we didn't have sex we just fooled around. We never really saw them again.A few years go by. I'm looking for a new roommate on craigslist, and this girl shows up at my house to see the room. She brings her boyfriend, and I start to wonder why he looks so familiar. He was the guy from the missed connection! After she leaves she calls to let me know that she wants the room. I said to her, "I'm not sure if Adam told you what happened between us, but we fooled around a few years ago." She said, "No, Adam didn't tell me," in a stern voice. She ended up moving in and living with me for a few months. There was always this weird tension between us.LR: Our first date was at the Gold Dust Meridian which went well. From there we saw each other a few times a week. Our schedules were totally off which didn't help things. We dated for about two months before our differences became too apparent.EM: Sadly, my missed connection was not connected. I haven't been back in the week or so since I saw that mystery man, but I do plan on going tomorrow.E+E: Do you regret replying to the posting?LR: I was the one who posted it so NO regrets whatsoever. We didn't end amicably but I am so thankful to have met him. He was refreshing and different from anyone else I've ever dated. He always drank whiskey neats, which I found charming, too.E+E: Would you post in the future? LR:  I would post again, or more likely, just be more upfront with someone and get their name and number.EM: I have never posted a Missed Connection before. I typically do not use Craigslist a lot, since I am not looking for a job.E+E: What is your relationship status? If taken, how did you meet this current significant other?LR: I'm single, but dating.EM: My relationship status is contently single. Interested in reading more of Elizabeth’s dating adventures? Check out her blog, Dating Portlandia.  

 The official EYES+EDGE guide to meet a stranger or see something strange (sometimes both):

 *Visit Freakybuttrue Pecularium at 2234 NW Thurman StEat the bug sundae from the Church of Ice Cream or gawk at BigfootFreakyButTruePeculiarium *Go to Portland Poetry Slam at Backspace at 115 NW 5th AveOne of the writers met her significant other (then stranger) here. Perhaps she’s a little biased.Portland Poetry Slam      Backspace *Head over to Goodfoot at 2845 SE Stark StA popular establishment, this bar is a good way to get groovy with strangers on the dance floor.Wallflowers can also chat it up or play pool up top, with hipsters galore.The Goodfoot*Get involved with CouchSurfingWhen all else fails, head to the web. CouchSurfing allows travelers to stay on the couches ofkind-hearted strangers. CouchSurfing has a big community in Portland and the website offers weeklymeetups with fellow travelers.CouchSurfing